Learn to set boundaries, advocate for yourself and cultivate self-love
As children, we learnt that the surest way to stay connected to the people we needed was to put their feelings, their needs, and their comfort ahead of our own. It was an intelligent adaptation at the time. The problem is that what kept us safe then is now subtly running our relationships, our work, and the way we treat ourselves.
We over-give and feel resentful.
We say yes when every part of us means no.
We tolerate dynamics we know aren’t right, and then wonder why we feel so depleted.
You can't change what you can't yet see, which is why this course starts with mapping where these patterns came from and the core wound underneath them. From there, you’ll learn to recognise the relationship dynamics that keep you abandoning yourself - including the subtle ones - and build the practical skills to set boundaries that actually hold, even when other people push back.
Discover how you adapted to get your core emotional needs met and the wound it created in you. Armed with this knowledge you will be equipped to start healing this wound and start putting yourself first.
Recognise the patterns that keep you abandoning yourself, understand toxic relationships and walk away with clear on what you need to do to re-balance toxic relationships.
No more saying yes when you really mean no. Meet demands on your time, emotions and energy with confidence and recogniton of what you need.
90 minute sessions · Live teaching, practice and Q&A · Lifetime access to recordings
The roots of self-abandonment lie in childhood: in what we learnt about our core emotional needs, and the ways we had to adapt to get them met. To change these patterns now, we first need to understand where they came from.
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Putting others’ needs ahead of our own is driven by a core wound — we give to others what, deep down, we most need ourselves. But no amount of giving on the outside will heal how we feel on the inside. In this session we go directly to that wound, and to what it actually takes to heal it.
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To change the dynamics in our relationships, we first need to see them clearly. We teach people how to treat us — and to teach them something different, we need honest clarity about what’s happening right now.
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As the inner healing deepens and you get better at spotting these patterns, you need the skills to create real change. We can’t control how others react when we set a boundary — but we can learn to stay steady in our own deeper truth.
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Our relationship patterns were shaped over decades, and it takes more than a few weeks to reshape them fully. This final session makes sure you leave equipped to keep building on everything you’ve learnt and can be successful in truly shaping your relationships the way you deserve.
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Alex and Anna will lead you through every module in live, interactive sessions.
Handpicked conversations on boundaries, relationships and healing from leading voices in the field.
Dr Alex Howard is the founder of Therapeutic Coaching® and a pioneer in integrating coaching psychology, trauma-informed practice, and nervous system science into a coherent professional methodology. Alex is passionate about making physical and emotional healing accessible to everyone, and in the last few years his Super Conference series has been attended by over one million people.
Alex has also published academic research in publications such as the British Medical Journal Open and Psychology and Health, and is the author of Why Me?, Decode Your Fatigue and It's Not Your Fault. Since March 2020, Alex has been documenting his therapeutic work with real life patients via his In Therapy with Alex Howard YouTube series.
Anna Duschinsky is the co-developer of the Therapeutic Coaching® methodology and a highly respected teacher in the integration of therapy, coaching, and trauma-informed practice. Anna was the founding Director of Psychology at The Optimum Health Clinic, where for 10 years she was responsible for developing the Psychology department to its current level of international recognition.
Anna holds a degree in Languages and Linguistics from Cambridge University, and has trained extensively in coaching, NLP, hypnotherapy, EFT and many other disciplines, and is a certified Trainer of NLP.