"This could be the best book on trauma I’ve ever read"
Dr Rick Hanson
New York Times bestselling author
Sometimes obvious, sometimes not. Trauma can be a single event, or a repetitive cycle. And, trauma can happen at any stage of life. But…
Whatever happened to you, I want you to know that things can be different. You can heal.
Trauma does shape us, but it doesn’t define us. My mission with this book is that you learn to do more than just survive your past, you learn to thrive because of it.
I’d decided that I was unlovable, that I had to take responsibility for others’ feelings, and that people are not to be trusted, to name just a few.
This is the book I wish I’d never had to write. It’s raw, it's deeply personal, and I had to lean into my own courage to publish it.
And, it’s also the companion guide I wish I’d had through my darkest times, and it felt deeply important to me to share it with you.
Packed into these pages is the best of what I’ve learnt not just on my own healing journey, but by working with thousands of people as a therapist over the last 20 years.
It includes the frameworks, the discoveries and the models that I have seen transform the lives of thousands of people, and I believe it can do the same for you.
Trauma can be deeply lonely, but I want you to know that you are not alone. Let me be your guide, and we can walk the path together.
Decode Your Trauma
Chapter 1: The Wounds That Shape Us
Chapter 2: Trauma as an ECHO
Chapter 3: Discover Your Trauma Events
Chapter 4: Context is Everything
Chapter 5: How’s Your Homeostatic Balance?
Chapter 6: Outcomes of Your Trauma
The RESET Solution for Trauma Healing
Chapter 7: Recognize Which State Your Nervous System Is In
Chapter 8: Examine Your Personality Patterns
Chapter 9: Stop Running, Start Feeling
Chapter 10: Put a STOP to Your Unhelpful Behaviors
Chapter 11: The Six Emotional Defenses
Chapter 12: Inquire Into Your Emotions
Chapter 13: Moving Beyond Inner Resistance
Chapter 14: Transform Your Inner Critic
The ABCD of Healing in the Real World
Chapter 15: Ask for Help (The Power of Yes)
Chapter 16: Build Better Boundaries (The Power of No)
Chapter 17: Commit to Your Healing
Chapter 18: Decide What Your Trauma Means
Alex Howard is founder of The Optimum Health Clinic and creator of the Therapeutic Coaching methodology, a methodology which integrates both psychotherapeutic and coaching principles. Having worked with thousands of people in the last 20 years, Alex is deeply passionate about making physical and emotional healing accessible to everyone.
In the last few years, Alex has produced a series of Super Conferences on trauma, anxiety, nervous system regulation, sleep and fatigue. These online events have been attended by over 1 million people. Since 2020 Alex has been documenting his therapeutic work with real-life patients as part of his In Therapy with Alex Howard YouTube series.